A while back, I asked if good sex trumped batshit crazy as it related to my girlfriend. Well, I am unequivocally say the answer is no! This weekend I became the biggest douchebag in her eyes, but I also feel very relieved.
I did not plan on breaking up just before Christmas. It just happened. She was out with friends at a party and I sent a text asking if she was having a good time. I did not respond in time and I received a “why are you ignoring me? what have I done?” text. Time elapsed–under 10 minutes.
Well, it blew up with me trying to explain that I was not ignoring and I indeed had reached out to see how she was. But that meant nothing. Because I did not respond in under ten minutes, I was cold, uncaring, didn’t love her and ignoring her. Go figure!
Eventually the fight escalated and I said I had serious doubts since this “ignoring” thing comes up a lot. Oh, if I hadn’t said it before, we live about 2 hours apart so it is a somewhat LDR. I said I needed to get my thoughts together and that we needed to take a break and see if it made sense.
Well, that has not gone over too well and now I am answering the “so, you are willing to throw it all away because of one little text tiff?” questions. Well, there is a lot more involved in my decision on my end, but just throwing them out there doesn’t serve any purpose beyond making me look like a nitpicker in her eyes and further complicating a break up. In making her argument she told me that she was not jealous of two of my married female friends (we’ve played in a trivia league for years) and that she never said anything after my last business trip. I am not sure why she feels that that makes her a saint. I mean they are married and it was a business trip. I have been questioned why I do not take her on business trips and the answer is simple–they pay me to go on these trips to speak to conferences, I am busy, and she was not invited.
But for now, I am sad for sure. But somewhat relieved. Hopefully the awkwardness will wear off and we can find a way to be civil–but she has a tempre, I tend to forgive and forget. And in the end, no matter how good the sex, it does not trump batshit crazy!